Allen Berger, Ph.D.
Use pet names in relationship
In this Twoology video, relationship expert, Allen Berger, Ph.D., believes that if couples want to use pet names for each other, it is important that you pay attention to how your partner responds to pet names. If they like it, keep it up. If they don’t, then drop it.
Should we use pet names for each other? If you are wondering about if you should call your partner “sweetie”, “honey”, “monkey”, “pumpkin” or whatever it is, then what I would suggest to you is that you’re not emotionally present in the relationship. If you were really paying attention to them, you would see how they react when you talk that way. You know, if it puts a smile on their face, obviously, they like it. But, if you say something and you can see that they don’t enjoy it, then you need to learn that about your partner. See, part of a relationship is learning about each other, is really getting to know each other, which includes whether you both wish to use (and like) pet names for each other.
One of the things I hate is when my fiancée calls me cute. I don’t want to be cute. I want to be sexy. I want to be handsome. I don’t want to be cute. That doesn’t work for me. So pay attention. Hopefully, my fiancée understands that now. If not, honey, I hope you’re reading this.
Notice how you feel about the pet name your mate is calling you. Notice how your partner reacts both verbally and non-verbally to the pet name you call them. Err on the side of caution. If you sense that something is bothersome communicate. Take time to share your feelings. Communication is vital in all aspects of your relationship, which certainly includes using pet names for each other.
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