Do couples make resolutions?
Curious minds want to know, and Twoology decided to ask that question (and one more) to over 520 couples (married, 25 – 49 years old, and living in the United States):
- If you made even one relationship resolution for 2014, what were they?
- Honestly, which resolutions do you think the both of you, your spouse and yourself will make, but break in 2014?
What do some couples have to say?
We also wanted to know who’s brave enough to show their full face to the world? (Actually, everyone of our couples was willing to do so, but we just thought it might be more intriguing to show a part of their story…..) See the video which shows all 10 of each of the three groups of broken resolutions at: Top 10 Resolutions Couples Will BREAK in 2014
Make and Break This Year
The number one resolution most likely to get broken early is:
- Voted by Couples about Couples: Make each other feel wanted and not take each other for granted
- Voted by Husbands about their Wives: Expect me to be a mind reader
- Voted by Wives about their Husbands: Be as romantic, fun and sensitive as you were when we were dating
Why don’t more couples plan ahead?
The more disturbing question remains: Why don’t more couples make at least one annual resolution to increase their relationship’s happiness? Many relationship experts know why, and it’s typically any or all of these:
- they assume their relationship doesn’t need any changes
- they believe what they’re already doing pleases their spouse
- they don’t know how to do a mission statement or set specific goals for their relationship
- they don’t inspect what they expect about reaching their goals
- they don’t want to be disappointed
- they settle for less than they expect or deserve
With the Relationship Unhappiness Rate (divorce + unhappy couples who continue to live together), wouldn’t it be in couples’ best interests to make and keep at least one annual resolution? Of course! Yet, most couples let their relationship slip into romantic autopilot…..which sets in motion chronic unhappiness, cheating, or worse.
What’s the greatest gift couples can give each other?
With Valentines Day fast approaching, wouldn’t the greatest gift couples can give each other be to keep focused on their resolutions? (Of course, chocolate, jewelry and spas might be a nice start.)
Twoology recommends any couple try this: Makes My Mate Happier!