Daniel Linder, MFT
How do we overcome the trust issues we have? The first step for rebuilding trust is to go back and discuss the feelings and situations that had been avoided and suppressed and that set the stage for the affair to occur in the first place. There are a whole set of issues in unexpressed conflicts, unresolved issues and feelings, that have been building up and need to be identified, addressed, and discussed in order to be able to begin to restore lost trust.
Once that’s done, it kind of segues into a process of getting current, getting to where they are now. And that’s the most exciting and hopeful part of the process because, for a lot of people, it is like a new beginning, getting to know each other all over again. Restoring and rebuilding trust is about being open and honest with each other and being accountable and responsible.
Being accountable and responsible is when you consistently do what you say and say what you do. And if that kind of dependable trustworthiness is maintained over time in a sustained way, then there’s a good chance that healing and overcoming your trust issues will occur.
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