Allen Berger, Ph.D.
In this Twoology video, relationship expert, Allen Berger, Ph.D., shares with couples ways to handle holidays and other important days. You should take as many chances as you can to celebrate each other, and days like Valentine’s Day are perfect for that. However, resist giving in to unnecessary consumerism. Find alternative ways to celebrate each other. What should you do for Valentine’s Day or your partner’s birthday, for example? Well, there’s a few days every year that you get an opportunity to celebrate each other. It has one of the things that everybody needs.
Everyone has two basic needs: to be seen and to be celebrated. Being celebrated becomes so important, because, at a person’s birthday, that’s your opportunity to say, “I am so glad that you’re here. I’m so glad that you’re present in my life and in this world.” And, on Valentine’s Day it’s the same thing. “I’m so glad that I found you. I’m so glad that you’re the love of my life, that we’re sharing this life together, and this is a time for me to let you know that in a very, very special way.”
You see, you don’t have to buy into all that consumerism that’s out there. Write your partner a love letter. You don’t even have to buy a card. Sit down, take an hour, and let them know what they mean to you on paper. That will be more important than any card, present, or anything else that money can buy.
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