Ana Morante, L.M.F.T.
Confront addiction or substance abuse
With addiction or substance abuse, there’s always hope for recovery. The first step for that is to recognize that it’s something that sooner or later is going to destroy you as an individual and is going to destroy you and your partner as a couple.
How do you confront addiction or substance abuse? A lot of marriages today are dealing with serious issues that break the couple apart. Those issues could be, for example, some type of addiction. In the Latino community, drinking alcohol is not just expected; it’s even encouraged. If it’s in a moderate way, it’s a social event, and it’s something that is a part of our culture. However, we need to be very careful when it starts crossing the line and becomes an addiction.
When it becomes an addiction, the person is much more interested and engaged in it. They think about it frequently. Needing to drink, use drugs, gamble, or watch porn can lower that level of investment in your relationship. It can take away from the energy that you should be putting into your relationship.
So, the important thing to recognize is that addiction is a disease. Unfortunately, there’s no cure for that. However, there’s always hope for recovery. The first step for that is to recognize that it’s something that sooner or later is going to destroy you as an individual and is going to destroy you and your partner as couple.
There are options for help available. Twelve-step groups have proven to be tremendously effective, not just for the person who’s suffering the addiction but also for their partner. There are groups like Al-Anon and CoDa that are wonderful groups that area able to provided you with the tools and the skills that you need in order to recover from your addiction.
Most likely, if you are married to somebody that has an addiction problem, there have been some issues that need to be resolved. So going the way of recovery is something that is going to be crucial. If you want to stay in a relationship that is enjoyable and that is healthy, you need to get help. You want your relationship to be something that is thriving, rather than just suffering and tolerating each other, while you’re being torn apart the addiction abuse.
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