Daniel Linder, MFT
I think that an emotional infidelity and a real physical affair are very different. I don’t see an emotional affair as a betrayal. I just see it as more of a way of coping with the increasing tension and distance that’s occurring in a relationship. It’s more symptomatic of that than it is a betrayal. And if the line has not been crossed in terms of a physical relationship, I don’t even think ‘affair’ is an apt term.
It’s more of carrying on a relationship in one’s imagination as opposed to in reality. However, it doesn’t bode well for the relationship. It means that there’s something missing; there’s something that’s not happening, and you’re mentally leaving the relationship. There’s a disconnect. There’s a limited amount of contact and real connection and communication with each other. So, it’s an alarm. It’s an alarm that your relationship isn’t working at the moment, as opposed to being a betrayal.
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