Daniel Linder, MFT
How can we affair proof our relationship
Usually when a person has had an affair or is longing to have another affair, there’s a need for excitement; there’s a need for escape. Something in their life is not working, and there’s some kind of pain or hunger or discontentment, a void inside of them that’s driving their thoughts, driving their fantasies.
I would put their attention on what is going on inside of them. I would make them discuss what they’re really feeling and get them more in touch with their heart and the feelings that are alive inside of them that, either through denial or escape or suppression, they’ve kept out of touch with.
There’s more than meets the eye. For someone that wants to have an affair or is thinking a lot about it, they’re probably avoiding some other situations or feelings that are going on in their life.
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